Pretty much what I look like every time I’m about to ask a doc to do something for me (or a nurse… or a care partner… basically this is how I approach everyone…)
How I react when someone interrupts my lunch with a ridiculous issue that has gotten their panties all in a wad…
Hi! First off, I love your blog! I found it awhile ago and enjoy scrolling through often! I’m in a senior in high school and getting ready to pursue a premed education with the intent to specialize in peds. I’m currently in outpatient treatment for an ED and I’m extremely close with my doctor. (She’s my mentor) I see her interact every week with nurses, MA’s, receptionists, phlibotimists, and other doctors. She treats each with equal respect, kindness and gratitude. I’ve never understood when doctors are rude to nurses, and I hope to mirror my doctor in the interactions and friendships she’s forged with her colleagues. What do nurses appreciate/desire most from the physicians they work with? I think we need to start a nationwide shakeup of the health care system, and a great place to start is work place relations. Thank you for taking the time to read this, :)
[So someone asked this from their blog and I wasn’t sure if they were okay with me publishing a response with a link to their page so I’m re-posting this way and hope that’s okay to the awesome person who took the time to ask this.]
First of all, as always, thank you for the kind words! I’m glad you’ve enjoyed reading my blog. And I’m glad to hear that you’re in treatment for your ED. You must have an incredible amount of strength. Keep up the good fight, okay?
Yay for future doctors! (and peds especially!) I’m so glad that you’ve had a positive experience and role model with your doctor. I agree that workplace relationships have to improve across the board. And I appreciate you realizing that there are some docs out there that aren’t quite so nice. But I want to let you in on a secret… sometimes us nurses… well… we can be equally if not more guilty of perpetuating the cycle. (see blog posts that make fun of interns on my own blog for example)
I’ve heard nurses bully their own and bully new doctors who are just trying to learn. And of course I’ve heard doctors walk away without giving the nurse the time she/he deserves (especially when I know that they’re right!)
Speaking for me personally, everyone I work with, every single person you mentioned in your question, plus so many more just want to be treated with respect and to be treated like they matter.
We’re all equals. I can’t do my job without the docs and they can’t do their job without me. But we both can’t do our jobs without the care partners, or the supply coordinators, or the person who makes meals, or the person who answers the phones, or the person who signs my paycheck at the end of the week. Every single person working in a hospital is an essential piece. If one goes missing we can’t continue to do what we’re all there to do: care for our patient.
Kindness, humility, a good sense of humor, a willingness to collaborate and teach and know that we’re always learning… those are the qualities in my favorite doctors that I work with. I’m pretty blessed to work with quite a few… way more than the other way around. And those that I do run into that have an “attitude problem” well… I’ve come to learn that maybe they’ve just had to give some parents some pretty terrible news, or maybe they just haven’t had their morning cup of coffee yet. We’re all human and all imperfect and we all just need to give each other a little bit of grace sometimes. I know I’ve received it when I didn’t deserve it. All I can do then is pay it forward.
I hope this answers your question! Thanks for asking as always and good luck with achieving all of your goals! Maybe we’ll even work together one day…
The National Association of Neonatal Nurses (NANN) Conference starts tomorrow…
… and I’m so freaking happy to be going! Three days of instruction and learning and being with so many neonatal nurses and neonatologists! I could scream!
I am a nerd, this was always me in school:
And it’s only gotten worse as I’ve gotten older and had experience teaching myself. And I love conferences and workshops…
So I’ve spent the last couple of hours mapping out my schedule and looking at all my handouts and generally, just looking like this on my couch:
Yeah… it’s going to be a great three days.